Understanding the Problem:

One in three women and one in four men have been victims of physical violence by an intimate partner in their lifetime.

Domestic violence is abusive behavior – emotional, psychological, physical, or sexual – one person in an intimate relationship uses to control the other. Abuse in a relationship is any act used to gain power and control over another person. People who are abused physically are often isolated. Their partners tend to control their lives to a great extent as well as verbally degrade them.

If you are abused, you might… 

-Believe it’s your fault.

-Feel angry, sad, lonely, depressed, or confused.

-Worry about what might happen next.

-Feel unable to talk to friends or family.

-Be afraid of getting hurt.

-Feel helpless to stop the abuse.

-Feel protective of your partner.

-Feel threatened, humiliated, or ashamed.

-Have low self-esteem from the abuser putting you down.

-Feel anxious or trapped.

These are normal reactions to abuse. You are not alone. 

If someone you know is being abused…

-Ask “Are you okay?”

-Encourage your friend to seek help.

-Remind them “This isn’t your fault.”

-Listen and show support.

-Document the abuse. Keep photos, screenshots, a journal, police reports, and hospital records.

-If you witness the abuse, speak up if you feel safe, and get help.

-Call The Retreat’s 24-hour hotline at 631-329-2200.

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