The following checklist may help you decide if you or someone you know is being abused:
Does your partner:
- Constantly criticize you and your abilities as a spouse or partner, parent, or employee?
- Behave in an over-protective manner or become extremely jealous?
- Threaten to hurt you, your children, pets, family members, friends, or themselves?
- Prevent you from seeing family or friends?
- Get suddenly angry or lose their temper?
- Destroy personal property or throw things around?
- Deny you access to family assets like bank accounts, credit cards, the car or control all finances and force you to account for what you spend?
- Withhold medication or deny you access to health care?
- Threaten to reveal your HIV status?
- Force you to work in jobs not of your choosing?
- Use intimidation or manipulation to control you or your children?
- Hit, punch, slap, kick, shove, choke or bite you?
- Deny you access to your immigration documents?
- Prevent you from going where you want to, when you want to, and with whomever you want to?
- Make you have sex when you don’t want to or do things sexually that you don’t want to do?
- Control your expression of gender identity or sexual orientation?
- Threaten to out you if you are lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgender?
- Humiliate or embarrass you in front of other people?
If you answered “yes” to any of these questions, you may be a victim of domestic violence. You are not to blame and you are not alone. One in three women and one in four men will experience domestic violence in their lifetimes. You do not have to face domestic violence alone. You deserve help and help is available.