Understanding the Problem: One in three women and one in four men have been victims of physical violence by an intimate partner in their lifetime.
Domestic violence is abusive behavior – emotional, psychological, physical, or sexual – one person in an intimate relationship uses to control the other. Abuse in a relationship is any act used to gain power and control over another person. People who are abused physically are often isolated. Their partners tend to control their lives to a great extent as well as verbally degrade them.
If you are abused, you might…
– Believe it’s your fault
– Feel angry, sad, lonely, depressed, or confused
– Feel helpless to stop the abuse
– Feel threatened, humiliated, or ashamed
– Feel anxious or trapped
– Worry about what might happen next– Feel unable to talk to your family
– Be afraid of getting hurt
– Feel protective of your partner
– Have low self-esteem from the abuser putting you down
These are normal reactions to abuse. You are not alone.
If someone you know is being abused…
– Ask “Are you okay?”
– Remind them “This isn’t your fault.”
– Listen and show support “I’m concerned.”
– Document the abuse. Keep photographs, screenshots, a journal, police reports and hospital records.
– Encourage your friend to seek help. “Let’s talk to a counselor. Let’s call The Retreat.”
– If you witness the abuse, speak up if you feel safe, and get help.
– Call The Retreat’s 24/7 hotline at 631.329.2200.