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shine the lightUnderstanding the Problem: One in three women and one in four men have been victims of physical violence by an intimate partner in their lifetime.

Domestic violence is abusive behavior – emotional, psychological, physical, or sexual – one person in an intimate relationship uses to control the other. Abuse in a relationship is any act used to gain power and control over another person. People who are abused physically are often isolated. Their partners tend to control their lives to a great extent as well as verbally degrade them.

If you are abused, you might… 

– Believe it’s your fault

– Feel angry, sad, lonely, depressed, or confused

– Feel helpless to stop the abuse

– Feel threatened, humiliated, or ashamed

– Feel anxious or trapped

– Worry about what might happen next– Feel unable to talk to your family

– Be afraid of getting hurt

– Feel protective of your partner

– Have low self-esteem from the abuser putting you down







These are normal reactions to abuse. You are not alone. 

If someone you know is being abused…

– Ask “Are you okay?”

– Remind them “This isn’t your fault.”

– Listen and show support “I’m concerned.”

– Document the abuse. Keep photographs, screenshots, a journal, police reports and hospital records.

– Encourage your friend to seek help. “Let’s talk to a counselor.  Let’s call The Retreat.”

– If you witness the abuse, speak up if you feel safe, and get help.

– Call The Retreat’s 24/7 hotline at 631.329.2200.